Dan Ariely: "The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie To Everyone - Especially Ourselves"

Dan Ariely: "The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie To Everyone - Especially Ourselves"

A best-selling author and expert on irrationality investigates why we cheat and lie, and identifies what keeps us honest.

Most of us think of ourselves as honest, but psychology professor Dan Ariely says in fact, we all lie and cheat. In a new book, he challenges preconceptions about dishonesty, from seemingly small white lies to avoid hurting someone’s feelings to massive financial fraud like Bernie Madoff’s ponzi scheme. He explores how unethical behavior in the personal, professional and political worlds affects all of us. He joins Diane to explain how dishonesty can be a slippery slope, what keeps us honest and how to achieve higher ethics in our everyday lives.

Guests

Dan Ariely

professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University, founder and director of the Center for Advanced Hindsight and author of "Predictably Irrational" and "The Upside of Irrationality."

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The fact that dishonesty is rampant is not new. It's part of world history. It will never change. Just look at our politicians.

August 13, 2012 - 11:13 am

Great topic. I appreciate the irony of misleading the participants regarding the shredding of their tests in an experiment to test or measure dishonesty. Good for a laugh!

August 13, 2012 - 11:20 am

Who are the people who don't cheat? Did Dan Ariely look at the common characteristics of non-cheaters?
Amarelle

August 13, 2012 - 11:22 am

Big WMD's in Iraq lies, hundreds of thousands of Iraqi people dead, injured, millions displaced, American soldiers dead, injured...HUGE CONSEQUENCES. Big distance between the liars and the outcomes.

What do huge lies that cause huge consequences with no accountability say to the larger public. Trickle down dishonesty and cheating

August 13, 2012 - 11:26 am

Group lies allegedly benefiting the agenda of the group. Please discuss the concept of the neo cons "the noble lie"

August 13, 2012 - 11:33 am

Did the guest analyze the religiosity of the participants? I'm curious to know whether religious belief played at all into participants honesty.

Jennifer in Texas

August 13, 2012 - 11:38 am

What happened in the 2004 Siemens Science Competition and why did the media and Siemens collude to cover up the truth? Did ABC's relationship with Siemens have anything to do with its refusal to correct the record of invention? Did the other student participants ever learn what happened (i.e. botched vetting and judging)?

August 13, 2012 - 11:41 am

"ok to lie to keep peace at home" Interesting about how he explained lying in Judaism. So I guess he is saying that it is perfectly ok for all of the lies and cheating that the Israeli government continue to partake in. "ok to lie to keep peace at home" What a twist.

I just don't believe that there are not particular cultures that lie less than others. I believe that is a lie

August 13, 2012 - 11:44 am

Have you lied or cheated in your study in response to any "conflict of interest"

August 13, 2012 - 11:45 am

Lots of interesting questions here and also lots of complexity in these questions. I guess "lying" is not a simple behavior to deal with, since in some rare instances there may be "good lies" (as, Ariely points out to save a life). Big fan of Ariely!!!

August 13, 2012 - 11:46 am

So in Judaism ok to cheat and lie if "it keeps peace at home"
In Catholicism you can cheat and lie and then be forgiven in confession.

Did you cheat or "fudge" in your research and experiments?

August 13, 2012 - 11:49 am

Gore Vidal has some great lines about America and hustlers but Alex Poe does too:

Vice is a monster of so frightful mien,
As, to be hated, needs but to be seen;
Yet seen too oft, familiar with her face,
We first endure, then pity, then embrace.
But where th' extreme of vice, was ne'er agreed:
Ask where's the North? at York, 'tis on the Tweed;
In Scotland, at the Orcades; and there,
At Greenland, Zembla, or the Lord knows where.
No creature owns it in the first degree,
But thinks his neighbour farther gone than he:
Ev'n those who dwell beneath its very zone,
Or never feel the rage, or never own;
What happier natures shrink at with affright,
The hard inhabitant contends is right.

Virtuous and vicious ev'ry man must be,
Few in th' extreme, but all in the degree;
The rogue and fool by fits is fair and wise;
And ev'n the best, by fits, what they despise.
'Tis but by parts we fellow good or ill;
For, vice or virtue, self directs it still;
Each individual seeks a sev'ral goal;
But heav'n's great view is one, and that the whole.
That counter-works each folly and caprice;
That disappoints th' effect of ev'ry vice;
That happy frailties to all ranks apply'd, Shame to the virgin, to the matron pride,
Fear to the statesman, rashness to the chief,
To kings presumption, and to crowds belief:
That, virtue's ends from vanity can raise,
Which seeks no int'rest, no reward but praise;
And build on wants, and on defects of mind,
The joy, the peace, the glory of mankind.

August 13, 2012 - 11:48 am

This is reason why societies need regulation, laws and enforcement of these laws. Cheating and lying can either be a offensive or defensive acts and both of these should be studied. I wonder which one is the more powerful motivator. If you lived alone on a island, you wouldn't cheat because there would be no one to cheat against.

I also wonder if other animals cheat? I think I heard they have found a few that do.

August 13, 2012 - 11:52 am

I believe non-religious people are less likely to be liars. They don't go to "confession" or pray their lies away by asking for forgiveness. They must be accountable to themselves and live with their behavior. And this goes for all types of bad behavior, too - not just lying.

August 13, 2012 - 11:53 am

I have seen studies with young children that ask them to share candy that they have hidden in their hands. I seem to remember that at about three years old, the child began to “deceive” the person to is asking them for candy by saying they don’t have any candy. Are you aware of this study and if so what is the implication about human behavior about lying when it is done at such a young age?

August 13, 2012 - 11:54 am

I love the new field of "behavioral economics" - its is deviously evil (when used to make more money) :-)

August 13, 2012 - 11:58 am

As Gore Vidal once said, “in a sanctimonious society of hustlers, which is what the United States has been from the very beginning...the first law is, ‘I won't blow your scam and you don't blow mine.”
take what you need and leave the rest? but don't be sanctimonious about it?

“In America, the race goes to the loud, the solemn, the hustler. If you think you're a great writer, you must say that you are.”

August 13, 2012 - 12:02 pm

Dan Ariely, You seem highly admirable yourself and almost all of what you said seemed fairly thoughtful, but many times behavioral science seems too flip about its conclusions based on its always highly limited studies. For example, concluding that the week-long crash ethics course at Princeton was ineffective simply because it did not affect your results. That leaves your audience thinking/concluding/rationalizing that ethics courses don't work.

A good researcher should go further: why these results? One idea to examine: metacommunication: a crash course may well imply to students that ethics can be quickly dispensed with before they get down to real work in the real world. On the other hand, the metacommunication of signing an honor code right before an opportunity to cheat says ethics is interwoven, unescapable, always here and now.

August 13, 2012 - 12:15 pm

Prof. Ariely told a whopper on the air when he alleged that
Kant had used an example having to do with Nazis. That is
an obvious anachronism. Kant lived and wrote in the 18th century.

Furthermore, the passage that Prof. Ariely so misrepresented is
probably from Kant's "Groundwork of the Metaphysic of Morals."
However, that is a highly theoretical work. Kant was not offering advice
about how to solve moral dilemmas.

Shame on Prof. Ariely: bad scholarship; poor understanding of
Kant.

August 13, 2012 - 12:25 pm

I tuned in just as Mr. Ariely discussed whether those intending to commit crime gave thought or were deterred by the extreme sentences much beloved of political leaders. As a younger lawyer, I had an extensive criminal defense practice -- mostly involving homicide, and infrequently drug offenses. During the ten years or so when this was my focus, I represented only one defendant who had thought ahead about the punishment he might receive for committing commercial burglary - he'd been punished many times before. All the rest, I'd estimate about 100 defendants, ONLY thought, if they thought at all, about the possibility of being caught. They never thought about sentencing which might occur thereafter. In a few cases, knowing that we had a "use a gun, go to prison" statute, they killed victims/witnesses to enhance the chances of evading capture. The other common belief was that, no matter what they had done, the "bad result" was someone else's fault. They shared that with the politicians.

August 13, 2012 - 2:42 pm

To me the key as included in the book's title is that we all lie to ourselves. Not Alexander Pope just Paul Simon -- "a man hears what he wants to hear and disregards the rest". Politicians do it and so do we.

August 13, 2012 - 3:11 pm

I wanted to comment about the show on honesty.
It takes a deliiberate act of will and a relationship with our
creator Jehovah to be honest. The bible says "Conduct yourselves honestly
in all things". So it is a requirement of God to do so.
The reason it is so hard is as Rom 5:12 says: Thru one man sin entered
into the world,,,,,,,... And in Prov it says: Because sentence against a bad
work is not carried out the heart becomes hard in men"..Which accounts for the enron and other scandals.. Your guest says the system need change so people dont act dishonestly but really the hearts of men need to be changed and that is only thru a study of the bible and "honest" self examination in the eyes of God.. He is the one we are trying to please
and not "men pleasers" as one translation of the bible says..

I really enjoy your show and am afflicted with the spasmodic dysphonia
as you but dont have the resourses unfortunately. I appreciate your
encouraging explanation on how you were first diagnosed etc..
Will you or have you ever had guest on show, preferably doctors
that can make this voice disorder more publicized.. It is real but most people dont think so.. Thanks again for all your informative shows..

August 13, 2012 - 4:22 pm

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